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  • Do your children throw temper tantrums?
  • Do you feel that your parenting challenges have had an adverse affect on your marriage?
  • Has your family gone through a major life change, such as a divorce, a new marriage, a new baby, relocation, military deployment or a death?
  • Do you have difficulty setting and enforcing boundaries?
  • Do you need ideas on how to effectively discipline your children?
  • Is your child having difficulty in school?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, Leadership Parenting can help you.

A Declaration for Independence

Independent children, capable of helping clean up their toys in one fell swoop, of packing a backpack in 20 seconds flat, of putting away their laundry in a single bound, of carrying their school bag home on their own….ahhh!…oops…oh sorry!  I was in the middle of reminiscing about my childhood.

The Good Ole’ Days.  Back when kids picked up things in front of them instead of walking over, or worse yet, on them, rather than making the effort to pick them up.  When a kid carried their backpack home from school instead of throwing it at their parent as soon as they see them.  When they knew how to dress themselves and tie their shoes before they were eleven!  It can’t be that bad you might say.  But I assure you, it is.  I live it every day.

The sad thing is, these are the people who are going to be running the country in the not so distant future.  And not just the government, but small businesses, corporations, the field of education, families. And even sadder still, it isn’t the fault of the children.  If parents don’t take the time to teach their children to be self-sufficient, then how are they going to learn?  In this world of insane schedules and instant gratification most parents find it quicker and easier to just do for their kids instead of showing them.

Raising a generation of inept children a legacy that must go unfulfilled.  Parents need to take the time NOW to teach their children the simple things, allow them to experience failure, for success will be that much sweeter.  They will relish their independence, and parents will revel in their new-found freedom from being an enabler.

Baby Talk…

Baby talk…it’s not just for babies anymore.  As someone who, on a daily basis, spends a lot of time with children from age three through  twelve, I have seen some shocking trends in the behavior of children over the past decade or two.  One area that I find alarming is that of language.  The increase in children who use baby talk, a baby voice and incorrect grammar is noticeable to say the least.   Mind you I am not referring to those children who have not yet reached certain developmental milestones of language, but rather those who have surpassed them and continue to use infantile language to communicate. The cause?  There is likely more than one.  I have a few theories.

One:  Parents think it is cute, adorable, precious.  It isn’t.

Two:  Families are not spending time together having conversations.  Rather than conversing around the dinner table, or in the car running errands, children are spending an increasing amount of time in front of televisions and tablets.  Conversations are things they hear, not something that they are actively participating in.  Lack of practice in the spoken language, as with anything, results in inadequate progress.

Three:  Many children are being cared for by nannies/care-givers who do not speak their language as fluently as necessary to influence speech development.  True, children exposed to a second language at an early age are more apt to pick up that second language, but they also need to master their own.

So out of the three above theories, two are correctable by the parents.  Teach your child how to say words properly and correct their incorrect grammar.  Parents are their child’s first teacher.  It is your job to help them grow and develop.  Take the time to have conversations.  Limit TV time and electronics in the car.  Talk to your child about their day, a story you are reading, what they see out the car window.  Conversation…it’s underrated.