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  • Do your children throw temper tantrums?
  • Do you feel that your parenting challenges have had an adverse affect on your marriage?
  • Has your family gone through a major life change, such as a divorce, a new marriage, a new baby, relocation, military deployment or a death?
  • Do you have difficulty setting and enforcing boundaries?
  • Do you need ideas on how to effectively discipline your children?
  • Is your child having difficulty in school?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, Leadership Parenting can help you.

Baby Talk…

Baby talk…it’s not just for babies anymore.  As someone who, on a daily basis, spends a lot of time with children from age three through  twelve, I have seen some shocking trends in the behavior of children over the past decade or two.  One area that I find alarming is that of language.  The increase in children who use baby talk, a baby voice and incorrect grammar is noticeable to say the least.   Mind you I am not referring to those children who have not yet reached certain developmental milestones of language, but rather those who have surpassed them and continue to use infantile language to communicate. The cause?  There is likely more than one.  I have a few theories.

One:  Parents think it is cute, adorable, precious.  It isn’t.

Two:  Families are not spending time together having conversations.  Rather than conversing around the dinner table, or in the car running errands, children are spending an increasing amount of time in front of televisions and tablets.  Conversations are things they hear, not something that they are actively participating in.  Lack of practice in the spoken language, as with anything, results in inadequate progress.

Three:  Many children are being cared for by nannies/care-givers who do not speak their language as fluently as necessary to influence speech development.  True, children exposed to a second language at an early age are more apt to pick up that second language, but they also need to master their own.

So out of the three above theories, two are correctable by the parents.  Teach your child how to say words properly and correct their incorrect grammar.  Parents are their child’s first teacher.  It is your job to help them grow and develop.  Take the time to have conversations.  Limit TV time and electronics in the car.  Talk to your child about their day, a story you are reading, what they see out the car window.  Conversation…it’s underrated.

“Crying Doesn’t Get You What You Want”

A child wants to go to the park. The parent needs to run errands first. Said child starts to cry, “But I want to go to the park!” Then they turn into a leg clinging, sobbing wreck. Mom stays calm and sits down with the child, who just two minutes into the ordeal, is inconsolable. Mom doesn’t reason, doesn’t attempt to bribe. What she does is say, “Crying isn’t going to get you what you want.” WOW! I wish more parents would respond this way. And stick to it, as this mom did. Five minutes later, child and mother are on their way to run errands.