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  • Do your children throw temper tantrums?
  • Do you feel that your parenting challenges have had an adverse affect on your marriage?
  • Has your family gone through a major life change, such as a divorce, a new marriage, a new baby, relocation, military deployment or a death?
  • Do you have difficulty setting and enforcing boundaries?
  • Do you need ideas on how to effectively discipline your children?
  • Is your child having difficulty in school?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, Leadership Parenting can help you.

She Calls You Mom for a Reason

The relationship between a mother and a daughter is a special one, one that needs to be kept as mother/daughter rather than morphing into a friendship.  You may think that being your daughter’s friend will make you closer.  But your daughter has friends.  She needs you to be a mom.

It is sometimes difficult in this age of social media to get your hands around all of the ways that your daughter is bombarded with messages, both from her peers and from society as a whole.  Girls are constantly being hit with input, both positive and negative and it is often hard for them to take it all in.  Not only is the volume of input so much higher than it has even been, but girls are faced with the challenges of sorting through all that they are seeing, hearing and reading.  The instances of relational aggression among girls is high, and gaining ground, as new forms of instant messaging come on the scene.

When your daughter comes to you to talk about relationship problems, your job is to be as impartial as possible. Remember that tween and teen girls can be all over the place with friendships, and the girl that you speak badly about may be her best friend the next day.  Do not fall into the trap of allowing your conversation become a gossip session in an effort to get close to her and have her think you are “cool”.  Worse still would be to become verbally engaged with the girl that your daughter is having trouble with…or her mother.  You should rather, listen to her concerns and try to lead her into choosing the right path to take, allowing her to find her way.  Remember, making mistakes is all a part of growing up, and if we never make mistakes, we cannot grow.

As difficult as it may be to see your “little girl” struggling with friendships, she needs to learn how to deal with relationships on her own, and knowing that you love and support her is the greatest gift you can give her.

Note:  If your daughter is fearful for her safety or is being abused physically or mentally by others, do not hesitate to contact school officials.



High Expectations

Having nice table manners is largely a thing of the past with many but it is still a skill that is given high regard at our school.   So many children these days have no idea how to behave during meal time, mainly because parents do not teach them or believe that they are not old enough to learn yet.  Unfortunately table manners is not the only area that parents have low expectations for their child in, but I am going to use them as an example on how having high expectations, even at a young age, can produce responsible children.

True Story…We are into the fourth week of school and the children, down to the youngest  2 year olds, are getting the lunchtime routine down:  sit nicely, eat your lunch, then go and play.   As lunchtime is nearing it’s end most of the children have already made it to the playing stage, so the sitting nicely crowd has thinned out, making this little scenario easy to spot:  A little 2 year old girl is getting up and wandering around, not particularly content to be sitting at the table and eating.  The teacher on duty is helping another child, so the little girl thinks she is home free and is about to make her escape.  But suddenly the teacher turns her way, catches her eye and the little girl high-tails it back to the table, hops up, sits down and starts eating again.  Not a word has been spoken, but the message is loud and clear.  She knows what it expected of her, and even at her young age, understands it and can follow-through…IF she knows SHE HAS TO!  Parents need to take heed of what this teacher already knows, and is trying to teach to her students.  If you expect something of a child, and they know you are going to enforce your expectations, they will meet them, and even exceed them!